i don't believe the gods fuck anyone over, and i'm assuming you're not attempting to rape the gods. if that's the case than making love to/with them is worship and something that can go both ways. a lot of the poetry in my private journal is related to this idea - if it's done in a reverent way, i can't think of many more powerful actions you could do with/to someone. there are even tons of saints who write about making love to the divine - and they're easily found by looking up ecstatic poetry. as far as my beliefs go - every time i make love to someone i'm making love to the divine, experienced as the divine in them. i try to be as conscious of their feelings and their pleasure as possible since i am making love to both a friend and a god(dess) - god(dess) being sort of like a flame/soul that everyone contains. hope that helps!