there's more to life than books, you know

I have a question. Which part of it bothered you? Was it referring to the person as 'that', or was it the questioning at all. Im not sure how I stand on the questioning someones gender debate. Like I understand that it can reify "the binary" it can also be an honest question ie. I wonder what gender that person was raised in our crazily gendered society. Gender as it stands is such a central part of identity that I don't see how we can expect people to ignore its specificity. Im not sure that the world im looking for is one in which there is no gender so much as where gender characteristics are expressed in many different ways in different combinations with sexual and genetic characteristics and other gender characteristics. Sorry im ranbling im stoned.