Oh Lindsay...I love you. "Sorry I'm rambling I'm stoned." Wish I had that excuse...
Okay, first let me say that I TOTALLY agree w/you that it's not about no gender but about mulitplicties, proliferating and specific deliciousnesses of gender. Yeah. And of course, it can be really attractive to not be able to immediately read someone's gender (like, is that a femme bitch top or a straight girl? is that a trannyboy or a transgirl butch dyke? is that a butch or a nontrans guy? etc) But the question, "What is that?" bothers me on a lot of levels.
First it implies that the person asking has the right to make a spectacle of another person's body. THis particularly pisses me off (and this may or may not be fucked up on my part) when it comes from a nontrans/nonqueer person directed at a trans and/or queer person. The fact that some unmarked, presumably normal One can turn their gaze onto someone and supremely Other them is really fucked up.
The phrasing of the question is dehumanizing as well.
Bah, I wrote a much better reply last night and then it disappeared. But I think the gist comes across and we can totally talk about this more later.
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Date: 2004-07-07 06:35 pm (UTC)Okay, first let me say that I TOTALLY agree w/you that it's not about no gender but about mulitplicties, proliferating and specific deliciousnesses of gender. Yeah. And of course, it can be really attractive to not be able to immediately read someone's gender (like, is that a femme bitch top or a straight girl? is that a trannyboy or a transgirl butch dyke? is that a butch or a nontrans guy? etc) But the question, "What is that?" bothers me on a lot of levels.
First it implies that the person asking has the right to make a spectacle of another person's body. THis particularly pisses me off (and this may or may not be fucked up on my part) when it comes from a nontrans/nonqueer person directed at a trans and/or queer person. The fact that some unmarked, presumably normal One can turn their gaze onto someone and supremely Other them is really fucked up.
The phrasing of the question is dehumanizing as well.
Bah, I wrote a much better reply last night and then it disappeared. But I think the gist comes across and we can totally talk about this more later.